We don’t always control what happens to us but we can always choose how to interpret it.
Are you aware of what you say to yourself? “I cant do it, I will never manage, I am not good enough, I messed up again”….
Why do we do this?
Mostly through self protection to avoid being disappointed or hurt…but is that a way to live? Never knowing how rich our life could have been or how purposeful we are? Living in fear…
The first step is to be aware of what we are saying to ourselves…listen out to what you are saying to yourself. Negative words make us weak and positive words make us strong, as simple as that.
Sure most of us are totally professional at the put-down talk and it takes a lot of practice to re-frame in a positive way. But you will be surprised how fast it can go with some practice. It is like staying fit: you have to work out.
Are you your own best friend? Encouraging yourself gently to step outside your comfort zone?
“Security is not having things, but handling them”.
So what can you do once you hear the negative voice. First do not fear or avoid but acknowledge it as a a kind friend who wants to protect you. Acknowledge it and thank it for caring for you. This does not mean the voice is right, its intent usually is.’
“Thank you for pointing out I may get hurt. It is a possibility but I am stronger now and I trust I have it in me to make this work, and owe it to myself to try”.. that sort of thing.
For those of you interested in giving it a try AFFIRMATIONS are a good way to practice out-talking our negativity.
An affirmation has to be:
– in the Present (not “I will” but “I am”)
– Positive (not “I will stop bingeing” but “I am in control”)
– Personal : I
For example”Everyday I am getting stronger”.The more often you repeat it the more you will believe it. Saying it out loud in front of the mirror with a smile on your face works wonders too….though one may feel totally ridiculous at first but hey, if you don’t try, you will never know….
Next post I would like to explore the “higher self” and what she/he can say to the chatterbox,,,
Actually on a personal point, as I was jogging yesterday I realised I actually have three little gnomes in me:
– the positive: Yes I can
– the negative: you are not good enough
– the neutral: both of you shut up and just let me BE