There is an expression in French: “Tu ne vas pas en faire un film!” meaning when something has happened, that one should not make a “whole film” a whole brouhaha about it.
Yet that IS what most of us do. And so do I. When something happens we find annoying or hurtful or frustrating we go over it again and again and create a film with “and I will say that”and then this will ensue and this time I will answer…etc etc
The more we do that, the more we climb our high horse of self-righteousness or cower down wallowing in self pity, or shoot off all guns blazing… the more vivid we make the film. Adding action, making the picture more vivid, more colourful, louder till we almost wish we were there to enjoy this master piece… Yet after a while…what might have felt good as vent to emotions becomes a very impactful film which does not go away, no pause button at night and it turns into a torment…
So now is time to take action and using NLP, adapt the modalities…
Does your film lose impact if it is black and white? What if you turn the volume down or even off ?
Maybe instead of broadcasting the film in our mind on a large panoramic screen, we scrunch it down to a barely visible square on the periphery of our vision.
You could even make it funny and play it fast-forward or backwards? How does that feel? It loses its impact doesn’t it?
Instead of triggering immediately all our emotional buttons, we can pause and consider what we are seeing and choose our reaction.
The images then return to what in effect they are, purely self made images, with as much meaning and impact as we choose to give them, a fiction, a fantasy…
Maybe give that a try next time you have a non-empowering scenario which seems to be stuck on repeat in your mind.
We always have a choice, make it the one which empowers you.